The Chick Whisperer
Single women in Atlanta are beautiful, sharp, and clever. They can also be difficult to approach at times. A lot of my male friends say that there are so many women with negative attitudes, rude behavior, and some have way too much “spice” for their taste. I consider myself to be a friendly and flirtatious person for the most part. I can admit that if a guy has an air of arrogance that surpasses confidence, I can become antagonistic. Only when I am provoked though! I think that single women often try to weed out guys that try to hit on them in a sleazy way. I have to wonder why men won’t tweak their own attitudes to get better responses from the women they approach.
I read somewhere that dating is like getting a degree in human behavior and mating rituals. For instance, some men consider their propensity to behave like a jerk, insult women, or challenge her as a tried and true wooing technique. Now to some degree, it can be effective because some women love the verbal sparring, mental stimulation, and sexual tension that can build from that type of interaction. It’s not unlike the fascinating exchange between Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy in many of their films. It makes sense that their on-screen chemistry was partly attributed to their own private romance off-screen. They are one of the best on-screen couples in film!
A Chick Whisperer, like a horse whisperer, knows how to communicate using respect, gentleness, and firmness to gain the confidence of a woman. Sometimes, these are women who have been traumatized before, perhaps by some jacka uh, I mean, some man. They start to become somewhat jaded and cynical. I know you may be thinking: women compared to wild horses is not exactly politically correct. Well, maybe not, but I think it accurately describes how some men think that strong women should be, well.. tamed and trained. Hey if the guys can be called dogs, a horse isn’t so bad, right?
I remember an episode from Sex and The City that illustrated this concept. Carrie felt as if Mr. Big preferred to be with a woman who was more demure, amenable, and quiet. She thought this was the reason why their relationship didn’t last. Of course, her girlfriends supported this notion, and they used the film, The Way We Were as an example. The logic was that for some men, it is easier to be with a woman who didn’t challenge him too much. Someone with whom the relationship would not require work. So Carrie divided women into “Katy Girls” (strong-willed) and “Others” (demure). A Chick Whisperer would be proficient in the language of love and is capable of relating to a Katy Girl.
Should single men aim to be Chick Whisperers?
Do you think it could change how we mix and mingle on a dating scene that is filled with professional, smart, and strong-willed women?
Should single women become Guy Whisperers for the type of guys that are extremely confident or slightly arrogant?
In relationships, do couples relate to one another using this same concept?